This defeats the goal of using feeling statements. Hello Sasical hope this email finds you well . I tell my doctors I think the anxiety and digestive issues are hormone related but they look at me like I'm crazy.I'm looking for a new doctor who is female and post menopausal that has a clue what this stage is all about. doi:10.7717/peerj.4831, Biesen JN, Schooler DE, Smith DA. This is the worst fear that I could imagine and my PTSD was pretty bad but I don't compare it because at least I understood what caused it. I-language may help individuals become more receptive to feedback. Hi, i just read your post and i feel exactly the same way. My main concern right now is this bladder pressure. Read our editorial policy. Im 55; will be 56 in August. The use of "you language" opposed to "I language" makes it more likely that this conversation disintegrated into a full-blown argument, leaving no one feeling particularly good. Im 56 and post menopause.My doctor is going to retest in 3 months but ive been googling and now Im worried out of my mind! I just constantly feel like I'm going to drop dead in front of my 12 year old daughter. my nausea was about once a month for over a year. Does this sound familiar. I wouldn't say I'm 100% cured because I still have some issues now and again but I am so much better. I feel for you, because I am feeling the same way. I also just underwent several tests for digestive issues. Another way to say I Feel? I don't know why I am not getting notification on responses. Don't google it will stress you more out, everything leads to cancer or that your dying, easier said than done. hope we all do . But be reassured you really are ok. Hormones effect every part of our body and it's normal. Thank you again for responding!. The Scoreganics label was founded in 2010 in collaboration with A&E Television Networks. We sound like sisters from another mister (lol). im tired of being sick im praying hard to have helthy day and restful night . you name it,! Looking back now, these bouts of nausea had me scared to death (yep, Googled every type of cancer under the sun and thought I had every one of them!) one of a million new and strange things that's happened to me that I didnt have an actual term for. I'm too old for HRT. NO appetite, food sits at top of stomach, can just nibble, losing a lb. Hot flashes come and go. Hi Sian, i also had endometrial polyps. By using "I feel" statements, couples can focus their communication on what they are feeling rather than assigning blame and making their arguments worse. hello, wow you seem to have a lot of the same problems I have I think theyre digestive anyway theyre in my stomach and in my back and on my sides and they move around a lot but it really hurts mainly on my right side the most and Im really scared theres something wrong!!! It scares me and if there are any ladies out there experiencing this, I would LOVE to hear from you. May be an avenue to explore if all tests have come back fine. I am the caretaker in my house. I am so relieved to have found your post. this will all pass so dont worry but get help if you need it. I hope this works, too soon to tell right now. Most of my bloodwork came back fine except for my Alkaline Phosphatase level that they do as a routine bloodwork. i have been post menopause since 2015. Use of the forums is subject to our Terms of Use Honestly it's terrible. feeling scared and depressed..hope things will get better for everyone soon! I don't understand how hormones can do this to a person. I feel nauseous rather flu-like, have the anxiety especially health anxiety, muscular aches and pains, digestive issues, and the weirdest bladder symptoms ever. Hi Sherrici I'm so sorry that you are going through this also, no you are definately not imaging these symptoms. 5 Signs of an Energy Vampire and How to Cope, Effects of Conflict and Stress on Relationships, Relationship Emotions: How to Express Feelings in a Relationship, How Nitpicking Can Damage Your Relationship, How to Improve Your Relationships With Effective Communication Skills, Newlywed Advice: Tips for New Married Couples, Daily Tips for a Healthy Mind to Your Inbox, I understand you feel that way, but I feel this way: the benefits of I-language and communicating perspective during conflict, What a difference a pronoun makes: i/we versus you/me and worried couples perceptions of their interaction quality, Journal of Language and Social Psychology. Take care! Im thinking i might have Vaginal Atrophy. The nauseau and anxiety are just awful. My heart goes out to everyone dealing with this. How Much Relationship Privacy Do You Need? I have had the latter periodically since starting peri-menopause 3yrs ago. It was only a few times. 2018;9(1):2474. doi:10.1038/s41467-018-04925-y, Rogers SL, Howieson J, Neame C. I understand you feel that way, but I feel this way: the benefits of I-language and communicating perspective during conflict. All the above symptoms I can relate to. I dont want to use HRT. im worrying about everything, kids, my health !! I also noticed I cannot tolerate chocolate anymore. I think the polyp made my lining look thicker than it was. I feel such dread, especially in the morning. i have been turning to God also. I pray for daily clarity and reminders that is hormones and it will pass. Medical Reviewers confirm the content is thorough and accurate, reflecting the latest evidence-based research. as being in breach of those terms. please ease my mind and tell me im not alone. I just stay in my room now. Just had mild hot flashes, periods all over the place and that was about it. do you act like everything is fine when your kids call? Take Care. Hope to hear back from you to see if you ever dealt with the reflux and difficulty burping. I am afraid to ask. It also covers how people can use these feeling statements and potential mistakes to watch for. Consigue EVOLUTION en:iTunes: http://smarturl.it/cd9evolutionApple Music: http://smarturl.it/cd9evolutionamSpotify: http://smarturl.it/cd9evolutionspo Google. It seems to hit like every 3 months and last for about a week (which seems like a year)! My kids are grown and gone as well..i do feel lonely and the few friends I have they don't have it as bad as us so they don't understand..like you im seating here constantly worrying. Yes id love to talk to anyone about this. Strangely I don't have hot flashes yet but I'm sure they are around the corner. And it does make you feel nausea. Verywell Mind articles are reviewed by board-certified physicians and mental healthcare professionals. I had an ice-cream bar the other night right before I went to bed and HOLY HELL! Couples therapy and family therapy are two types of psychotherapy where people practice this form of interpersonal communication. I have always been bubbly and positive. I realize this was posted months ago but I'm hoping there are still others out there that can relate i feel as if this perimenooause is breaking me i literally feel as if I'm dying from nausea the moment i wake up to constant anxiety and panic attacks, jelly legs etc its horrible and so overwhelming I don't recognize myself I used to be such a practical thinking person. Registered number: 10004395 Registered office: Fulford Grange, Micklefield Lane, Rawdon, Leeds, LS19 6BA. One thing i notice, is that dehydration can cause me to feel rather unwell. I feel like i always have some kind of physical problem and it's giving me major health anxiety. It occured to me when I had a bout of yeast infections that would not go away without diflucan for about three months, but the feeling when I knew I had a yeast infection was bladder discomfort like Interstitial Cystitis. I have no appetite, nausea, dry mouth, incredibly fatigued - tired, headaches, occasional hot flashes, night sweats, etc.. Fighting to keep weight on via force feeding myself. Hang in there ladies. have you had any tests? The health anxiety I have developed is almost paralysing. Because docs dont have personalized answers so we go to Dr Google where EVERYTHING is cancer. So weak nausea and feel like dying. I have aches and pains all over my body hot and cold all night I cant sleep headaches all the time dizzy tired pain in my left side it feels and sounds like the rib pain you ladies were speaking of but just sore every morning waking up feeling like doom its driving me crazy and its hard to talk to anyone about it thats not going through it because they just think that theres something wrong with you or youre having anxiety but its way much much deeper than that, but the dry mouth and the dry eyes and pain in the body is what is bothering me the most besides everything else I dont even look the same when I look in the mirror I feel like Im somebody else like everything is changed and Im not the same person I was just a year ago I have to fix this I pray on it I buy things to make me feel better and they dont but Im going to find a way to fix this I have to oh and I cant forget the buzzing in my ears Ive never experienced anything so horrible in my life all of this is just horrific but Im going to pray about it and Im definitely going to get better I have to. Unfortunately i noticed changes in my body and went on line to look for answers. Registered in England and Wales. The idea of "I statements" was introduced during the 1960s by psychologist Thomas Gordon as a way to help children learn to connect emotions with behaviors during play therapy. I also feel nervous and jittery. Hope yours clears up soon, it gets you down doesn't it when you don't know what the problem is xxx. with anyone else but it's like I told my doctor I felt like I had the flu and my throat just kept hurting off and on and was red , and they all chalked it up to post nasal drip , I asked if my hormones and menopause could be causing it told her I had read on this site that a lot of women were having the same issues she looked at me like I was stupid , and the rapid std test that shows results in 20 min was negative thank you Jesus , my sons are like mom you need to stop freaking out you've been checked you don't have anything but Google told me I was dying moreless and possibly had a horrible std even though my Dr's tell me if I did have I would be a lot sicker but this has all just suddenly hit me all at once within the last 6 months with the head aches and feeling moreless like flu symptoms and crap bundled all in one , I went to the er over it because my left under arm was hurting they did x-rays and said my lymph glands wasn't swelled and my blood work was fine , and I was like well why Is my throat red and why does it hurt but not hurt when I swallow and why is my armpit hurting and my upper chest off and on and why does my throat feel like it's going dry , simply it's allergies, pulled muscle , your fine just take musinex or a sinus med but here's the kicker since all of this started I'm having allergic reactions to a lot of stuff that I never had before , and my question is why does these doctors act like they've never heard of these symptoms with menopause well I'm apparently perimenopause, just turned 48 the 23 rd , so in short I wish someone would of kicked that snack in the ass and eve to for eating that stupid apple she cursed us all because she didn't listen to God's commandments , but I guess I cant be mad at her when I fell him daily to , I'm just so over all of this ughh , hope you feel better soon . the worst feeling ever. I have horrible health Anxiety been to the emergency room three times the last two years a month ago which was just recently they didnt do a ton of test but they just said you have anxiety but I just dont think anxiety causes this much pain but maybe it does!!! Every ache, pain I swear to God I am Googling convinces I have cancer or something and dying! I have my faith and i know i would be in so much worse shape without Him in my life and have done plenty of praying. My period also stopped last July, I felt alot better those months without a period, then it came back in January until March and my symptoms started again but not so bad first and second period, in March I started to get hot flashes and a period too. By clicking Accept All Cookies, you agree to the storing of cookies on your device to enhance site navigation, analyze site usage, and assist in our marketing efforts. but my health anxiety is through the roof and I keep thinking there has to be something wrong with me but they just haven't found it yet, aw bless you i know the feeling, are you taking iron? im new here and cant figure out how to use this forum properly but i have the shoulder blade pain which caused me to have neck surgery to get rid of it. This can often help the person who is receiving the feedback feel less criticized and more open to making changes. I have had numerous blood work done and for the most part they are normal. Pray for our country, pray for piece and pray for each other. I don't have headaches, a little congested but I don't think it's allergies. Insomnia. Blood tests ok too. Menopause sucks. Patient does not provide medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. I was having hormonal issues then. Meticulously curated television underscore. I have also had digestive issues with bloating and gas - feel the need to burp. Ideally, this allows the other person to concentrate on helping to alleviate the discomfort, rather than defending themselves. Just know you are not alone, people will think we are losing it. and Privacy Policy and steps will be taken to remove posts identified Ive been told by my male gynecologist that i dont have vaginal atrophy. sadly the pain remains. I think my bladder and digestive issues are the biggest problem causing my health anxiety. Now awful riots and my niece is a police officer in Milwaukee and the things she tells and sends me are down right frightening so I think with all I am sure the stress is not helping. I am about 2 months shy of my menoversary and i dont want anything to interfere with that. Not consenting or withdrawing consent, may adversely affect certain features and functions. My health anxiety is dreadful. Sleep is a new concern, when my meds always handled that before (mostly why I'm on them in the first place) and I feel all alone. Put a little on your finger. Synonyms for I Feel (other words and phrases for I Feel). Thank you, {{form.email}}, for signing up. So I completely get where you are coming from. I am a member of other menopausal chatrooms too. Very scared. shari. Read our. I've had all scans bloods done it goes on! It can drive you to the edge especially if you are googling. I have another appointment in March with another doctor in the same practice and will ask her about my lining and if everything is ok now. I've had this for the last 3 months. I-messages can also be a helpful way to provide constructive feedback to other people. While this statement starts with an expression of how the speaker feels, it concludes with an accusation. have you ever been given an explanation? Always speak to your doctor before acting and in cases of emergency seek Luckily I have two dogs for company. Anyway she says to throw away the applicator to the vaginal estrogen. After 3 months of suffering with the urinary symptoms, I went to my gyn and I kid you not, he told me to have a colonoscopy to rule out any bowel issues that could be mimicking bladder symptoms. im on HRT patch and anti depressant but i dont think this one is working so i may need to switch. My biggest things now (and some days are almost debilitating) are extreme exhaustion and the other thing I am having a REALLY hard time with is the nausea. I am 67 and started these symptoms in April after my doctor and I determined that it was not a good idea to still be on HRT at my age. When i get to three weeks of nightly Premarin, ill cut back to twice a week maitenance. I take a low dose of propanolol with no side effects and it does help. I'm doing my best to cope. Im having bladder pressure too along with frequent urination and irritation in the urethra area. Lately most days are spent thinking I'm dying from dome form of cancer. My alkaline phosphatase is elevated as well as my sed rate. 'I feel' statements are a way of communicating the speaker's feelings or beliefs. Hi, with regards to your bladder pressure have a read about vaginal atrophy, it is caused by low estrogen levels. So i have been vigilant in my drinking. I dont think its IC but i get this pressure but very little urine. Sometimes constipated, sometimes diarrhea. Its awful and i dont know if things are going to magically settle down after im post menopause. It allows the speaker to express control and ownership of their emotions without directly accusing the other person of being at fault. I have so many odd symptoms I just feel like I'm about to drop dead any minute. I read a lots try to keep my mind occupied till I get tired and I fall asleep.. I am 62 and endocrinologist suggested I go down on my hormone and now in bed so ill. I am going to get a second opinion from another doctor in the practice. Just let me know if you have any questions. this seriously needs to stop. I am 53, 3 years no period and at first I was like "this is a piece of cake". I don't have a cold or asthma. yes! im learning that women especially watch other women for styles and although we do admire other women, it doesnt mean you are attracted to them. I've had bloods and ECG done - all normal but I plan to speak to my GP about the stomach/flank symptoms. When I first started this menopause "thang" I was like "this is a piece of cake"! Hi Leisa: im now about 2 weeks post. Right before meno hit I had a 2 month period that seemed endless and I honestly thought I was gonna die. I've had perimenopause for the last two years. My head hurts all the way down through my neck! I ache all over as well and have had so many stomach issues. i am fed up of being a moaner . I know what you mean about chocolate I drank a choc shake the other day and I had horrible refux. I know what it's like when you are just wanting someone to talk to and seems like you are going through this alone. I have recently started getting discomfort in my right flank/around the base of my ribs. You definitely are not alone. For the last 7 years. Mahmoodi A, Bahrami B, Mehring C. Reciprocity of social influence. ", "I feel sad when it seems like my feelings are not taken seriously.". x, Hi, my periods are very irregular, I won't have a period for 3-4 months, then I'll have one every 18 days a few times, the 5 months withoutI've had quite a lot of tests, bloods, been to 2 neurologists, gynae, gastro docs, all okish, except for Sibo and low in vit d and iron. Other researchers have found that couples that utilize "you" language during conflict discussions have less effective interactions. I so hate that this happening!!! ty. error404,theme-capri,qode-core-2.1.1,select-core-2.1.1,woocommerce-no-js,ajax_fade,page_not_loaded,,capri-ver-3.3, vertical_menu_background_opacity, vertical_menu_with_scroll,smooth_scroll,no_animation_on_touch,fade_push_text_top,paspartu_enabled,woocommerce_installed,blog_installed,wpb-js-composer js-comp-ver-6.4.2,vc_responsive. Once the feeling is stated, it should be connected to an issue or event. Although i hate that other women are suffering, at least i know im not imagining these issues. I was fine before. Wishing better times for all of us, and I'm just really so happy to be here. Can things get any worse? Research also suggests that this approach can be helpful when communicating with others: Some settings where I-messages are frequently utilized include: This technique is frequently used in couples therapy to help improve communication in romantic relationships. I have always had them but with menopause and everything drying out, they are more common! I am taking a natural supplement for perimenopause but don't know if it's helping. Two different meds, for this, and neither one helped. You are SO not alone! "While you're running and in the period when you get back from a run you do seem better able to focus. I had lots of tests all came back negative. And tons of other symptoms but No hot flashes. just awaiting on results from a biopsys that was took from left breast yesterday , get results next tuesday , but praying and asking God for good result , thanx for reply , nobody quite understands as the out of things that can come from menapause. A 2018 study found that the use of "I" language was the most effective strategy to use during conflict. Neck pain, Overwhelming feeling doom, I panic jump in my car drove near the hospital which is 10minutrs drive from my house. its all a mind game but one in which we might need help to get thru. 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